Mates
Not like "mate" your life partner, more like mate your friends. I have really good friends, I was thinking about that after my ill fated visit to the doctor when he told me that I should get out there, meet new people etc. Well I like the old people that I know. They have been there for many years and there seems to me no reason to replace them.
I do understand where he is coming from, its a little inconvenient that the bulk of my "hanging out" (all but my New York crew, you know who you are) friends live 600 miles away.
I was really never one of those people that had to seek friends out though. They always came to me. I can't say that I set out to meet a best friend when Dana and I met, we met in our dorm when we were both too hung over from the night before to go out again Or Matt and I met through a mutual friend and bonded in out mutual retail hell. So where does one start at 40 to get a group of folks to hang with.
The mechanics of doing that seem somewhat weird to me. I guess one could join a group, team, or take a class, except I really don't have any interests that folks have groups about (the how to sit on your couch group), I can't even imagine myself on any kind of team (the day I join a sports team would be a sure sign of the end of the world) I guess taking a class would be the really only option, but I think my laziness would win out on that front as well. There is always the internet but that seems odd to me, the internet is for shopping, porn and meeting people for sex (not that I would ever do that ...no comment from you Matt). You can go out but in thinking about social situations that I have been in, it seems to me that groups attract people, so for instance, a group of people in a bar look fun, and attract other people to that group, a person alone in a bar doesn't necessarily attract that attention, so they need to gravitate to the group, not my strong point at all. What do you do walk up to them and say "hey you guys look like fun lets hang out?"
I do understand where he is coming from, its a little inconvenient that the bulk of my "hanging out" (all but my New York crew, you know who you are) friends live 600 miles away.
I was really never one of those people that had to seek friends out though. They always came to me. I can't say that I set out to meet a best friend when Dana and I met, we met in our dorm when we were both too hung over from the night before to go out again Or Matt and I met through a mutual friend and bonded in out mutual retail hell. So where does one start at 40 to get a group of folks to hang with.
The mechanics of doing that seem somewhat weird to me. I guess one could join a group, team, or take a class, except I really don't have any interests that folks have groups about (the how to sit on your couch group), I can't even imagine myself on any kind of team (the day I join a sports team would be a sure sign of the end of the world) I guess taking a class would be the really only option, but I think my laziness would win out on that front as well. There is always the internet but that seems odd to me, the internet is for shopping, porn and meeting people for sex (not that I would ever do that ...no comment from you Matt). You can go out but in thinking about social situations that I have been in, it seems to me that groups attract people, so for instance, a group of people in a bar look fun, and attract other people to that group, a person alone in a bar doesn't necessarily attract that attention, so they need to gravitate to the group, not my strong point at all. What do you do walk up to them and say "hey you guys look like fun lets hang out?"
posted by Michael at 9:48 PM
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I was going to make some smart ass, cynical comment about the impossibility of becoming friends with someone you meet online for sex but decided not to.
Meeting someone online for sex and becomming friend with such person is very possible...proven several times in my case...but of course, there are many cases that supports Matt's intention for 'interesting' comment...hey, express Urself freely...;-)
I am going to take acting classes soon...I want to try such kind of methods of 'finding' friends...and I agree with Michael very much...miss U here in Chicago, man! I wanna be Mariah Carey, so I may fly to NYC every second day, just to have drink with U! Would she wants to live in Chicago??? My oh my...I am bubbling again!
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