Men it was bound to happen...

While I'm down on men, can someone explain to me why so many gay men can't take an attempt of friendship as just that friendship. I have had a couple of distasteful attempts at being friends with guys, just friends, and you would think that I wanted to marry them. Um no I don't want to marry you, or sleep with you for that matter, it would be kind of nice to have a couple of gay guys to hang out with. Maybe I'm just a freak or just spoiled. I have a few good male friends, we are just that friends, we can hang out, talk, share porn, you know the usual stuff that everyone does right?
I have had now three bad flirtations with trying to meet new people in New York where I just really don't get it? Will someone explain it to me? My only thought is that when I met my friends we were all younger and now, everyone is out to fill an agenda.
It seems crazy to me that fags just can't be friends. OR if your not confused, (maybe my attempts of friendships are confused for more and if so what the hell is wrong with that)be an adult and say so. There I've said it.